I have a problem with "systems" that profess to help you "GET WHAT YOU WANT." It really doesn't matter the brand of system - Tony Robbins, The Secret, The Laws of Attraction, Norman Vincent Peale, the Power of Positive Thinking. All these systems (in my opinion) are flawed.
The reason I believe these "Control your mind/power/intention to get what you want" programs are flawed is because the basic premise - that if you get what you want you will be happy - is erroneous. It's a lie!
Being "happy, joyous and free" has very little to do with what I want. All my problems - all of them - are a result of things I 've wanted. All of them!
It is my experience that getting what I want is the cause of my pain and suffering. Getting what I want never creates happiness - only temporary pleasure. Happiness is not about getting what I want.
The reason "Getting what I want" causes pain and suffering is because there can never be enough "stuff" - enough money, success, riches - to satisfy the ego's craving desire. Additionally, the things that I want - that my mind tends to "grasp" for - are all fleeting and impermanent.
A quick story. It was 1966 - I was 9 years old. It was just before Christmas, and I remember thinking to myself...
"...if I only had a remote control P-51 gas powered airplane I would be totally happy and satisifed."
I wanted that airplane. I saw it in the model airplane store. I showed it to my mom and dad (because I knew by this time there wasn't really a Santa Claus). I told my parents it was the ONLY thing I wanted and if I got it I would never ask for anything again. I obsessed on that airplane. I envisioned myself flying the airplane in the field near our house. I envisioned all my friends liking me because I had the airplane. I could think of nothing else.
I craved the airplane. Have you ever craved for something like that before? Be honest!
Christmas morning came and I got the airplane! I was so excited. I had made it! I had arrived! Life was good. I didn't even bother to wait for my sisters or parents to open their presents (selfish and self-centered as I was). I ran outside with the plane to fly it. My dad helped me start it. It didn't work as smoothly as I thought it would at first - but it did eventually start. We got the engine screaming at a high RPM. We let the plane go. Up it went - and down it came, crashing into the hard pavement of the cul-de-sac in front of the house. Broken wing, broken prop, broken dreams. Disappointment.
We tried to fix the plane but it was never the same. I got other planes after that. Then one Christmas several years later I remember craving for a bike - and I thought to myself - "...I remember this feeling - where did it lead before?"
That was then. The selfish dreams of a 9-year old boy. What's changed? Nothing much really. I still have rising cravings for cars, houses, jobs, titles, vacations, clothes, experiences, relationships, - you name it - I've craved it. And none of it has added one ounce of "happiness" to my life. At best, the things have added moments of pleasure - but fleeting at best.
There's a great quote in the book of Ecclesiasties about this..."Vanity of vanities - all is vanity." The story is about how King Solomon (the Bill Gates of his time - the richest guy in the world) can have anything in the world he desires - anything "under the sun" - yet nothing brings him satisfaction - nothing he can grasp - nothing his eye can see - nothing his mind can think of having - brings him peace.
So what does bring happiness if it's not getting what you want?
BEING WHO YOU ARE - and being of service to others. This is the definition of Karma Yoga - selfless service. Doing without concern for the results. Following spiritual principles of Ahimsa (non-violence/kindness), Satya (truthfulness), Asteya (non-stealing), Bramacharya (restraint) and Aparigraha (non-hoarding). This brings happiness (to me anyway) because it aligns me with a larger purpose.
It's not about getting what I want - it's about being who I am and thinking of others from a spiritual frame of reference. Seems like it wouldn't be very fun. In practice - it's wonderfully fulfilling.